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Hungry? Have a Nice Communication Sandwich!

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    You’re going to learn something very useful by reading this article.

This “something” is so valuable that you might want to use it for the rest of your life.

But before you learn what it is, let me start by saying…

    The older I get, the more I realize things.

    While that statement/observation could apply to just about anything…or anybody, I’d like to use this article to point out how it relates to people’s everyday communication skills.

    We live in an age of instant information…yet people these days don’t seem to have any patience to communicate properly. We abbreviate stuff, like lol, brb, and wtf.

We text. We Tweet. We post. We share, and we like. What’s up with all the cat videos?

    With so much information all around us, bombarding our everyday lives, it’s easy to understand why we need to curtail our communication. We just don’t seem to have the time to talk to with most people the way we used to.

    Because of this, our language is suffering…even as it grows and ‘evolves.’  
The art of conversation just isn’t what it used to be, is it?  
And don’t even get me started on spelling and grammar! Holy guacamole!

communication-sandwich    So let me ask you a question: Do you think communication is important?  Is it important for your personal life? How about for your professional or business life?  
It shouldn’t come as a surprise that my answer to all those questions is a loud, resounding YES, good communication is absolutely important!!

    In fact, I think it’s so important that I’m going to venture to say this:
MOST problems in life are somehow related to a breakdown in communication.

    Think about it!  How often do things go wrong when someone doesn’t explain things properly. Or when someone doesn’t understand something the way it was intended. Or someone simply misinterprets something they think someone else said or did?

    Other examples include: A spouse not communicating something to their husband or wife, because they’re afraid of ‘hurting’ them, when the reality is that almost all of the ensuing drama that comes as a result could have been avoided if they had simply communicated things together properly.  Or how about family issues?  Oh, that’s so big, you could write volumes of books about it!

    Just think: Most of the tv shows & movies, especially the drama-themed ones, probably wouldn’t even exist without breakdowns in communication being an essential part of the plotlines!

    So why else should you care about this?  Why should you care about developing excellent communication skills? Sure, you can talk & write, right?  Well, here’s something for you to consider: Some of the highest-paid people on the planet are exceptional communicators! From Presidents to politicians to party planners and presenters – if you can communicate your thoughts & ideas effectively, you’ll tend to get paid more.

    But it’s not just about the money!  Some of the happiest, most fulfilled people are people who know how to communicate – thoughts, feelings, ideas, etc. well.  Good communicators tend to have better relationships with people, both personally and professionally.  So they’re richer in friends and happiness, too.

    Which brings us to today’s lesson. I can’t just leave you hanging now, can I?

    I’ve developed a very simple, 3-step solution for communicating effectively.  Now, this isn’t an all-inclusive, magic bullet solution for every form of communication. We’d definitely need a LOT more time for that!  No, what you’re about to learn here works for just about any time you’re going to write, speak, present, make an offer/proposition, etc.

    This 3-step communication solution is so simple and practical, you might just glance it over, think you know it, and forget about it. But that would be a tragic mistake, my friend. Trust me on this.

    So here it is: A simple, 3-step communication solution that works all the time, every time, when you’d like to communicate something with someone. Are you ready?

    Simple & Effective 3-Step Communication Solution:

  • Tell Them What You’re About To Tell Them.
  • Tell Them What You Want To Tell Them.
  • Tell Them What You Just Told Them.

    That’s it!  See? Told you it was simple!  I mean – look at it! Steps 1 and 3 are basically the same thing – like the BREAD in a SANDWICH, with the MEAT in the middle. Hence the term “Communication Sandwich.”

    Another way of expressing this: 1. Prepare; 2. Inform; 3. Review.

    For example, let’s apply this to Real Estate Investing.  Let’s say that you’ve spoken to a seller & want to make them an offer now. How many times do you think a good offer wasn’t made, simply because the person making the offer didn’t know what to say? Let’s fix that.

    To make an offer, you’d just write up a letter or email and send it out to the seller. You’d obviously include your name & contact information, then after that, just start by saying that you’d like to make them an offer for their house.  Then you’d give them the offer (keep it as simple as you can). Finish it up by thanking them for considering your offer and telling them what to do next.  Easy peasy, lemon squeezy!

    So there you have it. You’re now well equipped with a very simple-yet-valuable life lesson in communication. When applied, this 3-step pattern will work miracles for you, day in, day out. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself richer & happier in no time.  Results may vary.

    Finally, I’d just like to point out that I practice what I preach. Just look at the structure of this article. Notice anything familiar?  🙂

 

Until Next Time,

Tony Pearl

Cold Weather Tips for When It’s Freezing Outside

As I write this, it’s a balmy 27 degrees outside.

In my vernacular, “It’s frickin’ freezing!!”

I live in the Washington, D.C. area – Reston, VA, to be specific.
Last year, we got like 8 or 9 FEET of snow, which is normal…
IF you live in Saskatchewan or New England
or Michigan or whatever, but NOT for us here in the Mid-Atlantic.

I just pray that this year is not the same as last.

Yeah, the snow was beautiful & fun… for a while.
But it kept coming, and coming.
And then it came some more.
And then it came again!

It snowed so much here last year that they came up with fancy names for it,
like “Snowmageddon,” or “Snowtorious B.I.G.”
Cute, right?

Anyway, when you’re snowed in & everything is frozen,
it makes you think of a lot of stuff –
like how can I get more toilet paper?

But also things like “How can I get my car to work better,
or to not freeze up so much.  Practical stuff like that.

I mean, when you get up early in the morning & have to go to
work (thank God I don’t have to deal w/ that crap any more),
and your car has ice all over it & the key almost breaks in the lock,
you wonder if there’s something that can  be done to prevent that
from happening, right?  Right?

So I’m here to help!

I just got an email from an ol’ friend of mine who’s originally from Michigan.
She had some great tips to share, so I thought I’d pass them on to you!

And since I’m the one sharing them now, I came up with this cute name for ’em:

Tony’s Terrific Tips to Tame the Terrible Cold:
(I couldn’t think of something cold that starts w/ T)

Keep Your Headlights Clear with Car Wax –
Just wipe ordinary car wax on your headlights.
It contains special water repellents that will prevent that messy mixture from accumulating on your lights – lasts 6 weeks
.

Squeak-proof your wipers with Rubbing Alcohol –
Wipe the wipers with a cloth saturated with rubbing alcohol or ammonia.
This one trick can make badly streaking & squeaking wipers change to near perfect silence & clarity.

Ice-proof your windows with Vinegar
Frost on it’s way? Just fill a spray bottle with three parts vinegar
to one part water & spritz it on all your windows at night.
In the morning, they’ll be clear of icy mess.
Vinegar contains acetic acid, which raises the melting point of water—
preventing water from freezing!

Prevent car doors from freezing shut with Cooking Spray –
Spritz cooking oil on the rubber seals around car doors
& rub it in with a paper towel.
The cooking spray prevents water from melting into the rubber.

Fog-proof your windshield with Shaving Cream –
Spray some shaving cream on the inside of your windshield
& wipe if off with paper towels.
Shaving cream has many of the same ingredients found in commercial defoggers.

De-ice your lock in seconds with Hand Sanitizer –
Just put some hand sanitizer gel on the key & the lock & the problems solved!

Aren’t those tips cool?
I mean – you’ve got cooking ingredients (vinegar, cooking spray),
Shaving Cream, Hand Sanitizer, etc. in this list!

It’s like you’re getting ready to take your car out on a date or something!

Anyway – I don’t know about you, but I intend to use some of those tips
on my car & my girlfriend’s car right away.

If you use these tips for yourself, won’t you please share the results
here with my other 2 readers??  lol

Thanks & stay warm,

Tony

A Cowboy Living Behind Enemy Lines

I’ve lived all over the place.

I’ve traveled to Europe, South & Central America, and the Caribbean.

But for some strange reason, I keep coming back to the East Coast.
The Washington, D.C. Metro area, specifically.

In 2009, I sold my house of 12 years in University Park, MD (near College Park-Go Terps!)
took my sons & moved in with my girlfriend in Reston, VA.

I love it here!  We get the 4 seasons (HATE the winter, though),
the schools are the best in the country, and the people are nice.
Oh, and there’s lots of cool stuff to do here.

There’s Just ONE Slight Problem…

It’s REDSKINS territory!

Why should that matter?
UUuhhhhhhh… because I’m a die-hard DALLAS COWBOYS FAN!!
The DEADskins are our sworn enemy.
That’s why.

Before we moved here, my girl lived in Ashburn, VA.
And if you know anything about the stinkin’ Skins,
you’d know that that’s where their training facility is!

Around December 2008, I think it was, we were driving by the facility,
known as Redskins Park, and saw that the gate was open.

My girlfriend & I each had our sons with us, so we thought it would be cool
to at least drive in & check it out.
Even though it was the ‘Skins compound, it was still a Professional Football Facility.
…Although the ‘Skins were coached by Jim Zorn at the time & wound up finishing
the season 4-12, so one might argue about the “professional” part.   hahaha.

As we drove in to the compound, we were surprised to notice the lack of cars
in the parking lot.  This encouraged us, so I parked & got everyone to get out so that we could take a look around.

Except for a couple of assistant coaches terribly kicking punts to each other, the practice fields were empty.

It was freezing cold outside, so we started running around a little bit to keep us warm…
And to get a feel of the artificial turf we were standing on.

I hadn’t been on a football field in a few years, and as I began moving around to stay warm, I started to feel a little bit of the rush I used to get back in my playing days.

And then I noticed the Redskins Emblem in the middle of the field.

In an instant, a thought & a feeling hit me at the same time.
I knew what I had to do.

Everyone else was far away from me, doing their own thing.
I casually walked over to this despised emblem – the symbol of my enemy.
I squatted to one knee… Not to pray, but to make what I was about to do not so obvious.

I peed right there in the middle of the field – right on the ‘helmet’
colored in to the turf that represented my team’s archenemy.

I know it was wrong.  And I don’t think I’d do it again.
But for 30 glorious (and relaxing) seconds, I felt happy there in the freezing cold.

I had successfully gone behind enemy lines & marked my territory!

Shortly after that, an old guy who was the security guard for the compound politely came over and reminded us that this was private property, and we’d have to go now.
I noticed that the assistant coaches on the other field were staring at us.

I told him that it was no problem, and thanks for letting us look around a little while.
And then we get back in to the car, turned on the heater full blast & left.

So now, as a new season begins, and my Cowboys are starting it off by sucking
at a lousy 0-2, including an opening-day loss to the afore-mentioned ‘Skins,
I can at least take some small satisfaction that one day, a couple years ago,
I pissed on the Redskins Practice Field in Ashburn, VA.  Right on the emblem.

And somehow, that makes me feel a little bit better about things.

Go Cowboys!!

One of the Saddest Things I’ve Ever Seen…

What’s up, guys & gals?

I just saw something that I am virtually compelled to share with you…

But I’ve gotta warn you that it’s not the most pleasant thing you’ll ever see.
In fact, it’s kinda sad.
Actually, it’s really sad! That’s why I titled this post the way I did.

There. You’ve been warned.

Ok, so I just saw this video here:

http://www.cultureunplugged.com/play/1081/Chicken-a-la-Carte

This 6-minute video has won a bunch of awards,
because it shows something that most of us Americans are virtually unaware of:
Hunger.

I don’t have to say much about this, except: Just watch it. Please.

After watching this video, I think you’ll agree that we have SO much & we sometimes take it all for granted.

If you have a roof over your head, food to eat, clothes on your back, and people who love you,
YOU ARE RICH! Think about it.

And on the other side of the coin, I guess there’s something positive that comes out of this
that can make you feel good about any minor problems you think are so big right now.

Again, watch this video & post your comments below!

http://www.cultureunplugged.com/play/1081/Chicken-a-la-Carte

Peace & Love,

Tony